A few confessional thoughts for the day –
Monkey at 23 Weeks
Due to daily heartburn, me and my tums are essentially best friends. I don’t go anywhere without them. That said, I think I have officially turned the corner on the “healthy” use of tums. Yesterday, no heartburn in sight, I wandered by the cupboard and thought about popping in a few – just cause they taste good. ???? Apparently I have eaten far too many. When chalky, fake-fruit tasting pucks sounds good, there is something wrong.
I still think about Avery and Sophie pretty much every day … wondering who they might have been, what our lives would have been like. That said, I always envision a pretty “perfected” view of them – in my daydreams there are no snotty noses, no temper tantrums, and generally, the most perfect little girls you could imagine. Sometimes I think this might lead to issues down the road when I discover that little children don’t generally work like daydreams do 🙂
I am in a definitely dry spell with blogging. I am finding myself in a good space right now – and am loving being at this stage of pregnancy, something I never thought I would be able to say. That said, I feel guilty blogging that here … it feels wrong when so many of my blogging friends are in that horribly painful place of longing for pregnancy and babies. I don’t know quite how to reconcile this happiness and my desire to share it with my desire to respect those in pain. It was easy when pain was mostly what I experienced, but on this journey to Rebuild Myself, slowly I am finding more joy, and less of the pain. Hard to know how to work with that in this space.
Linked to the last point, I love my pregnant belly. If I hadn’t experience pregnancy loss, it would probably be pasted all over any online networking place I frequent. Then again, if it wasn’t for our losses, I might be more concerned with possible stretchmarks and weight gain – instead, I find myself thrilled with the proof of growth. That said, I now try to limit how many I share, again I don’t want to be the cause of more pain. I have tentatively decided on every 4 weeks … I know I enjoy seeing updated bellies, even when I wasn’t pregnant myself. Would love feedback on this one though. Is it to painful? Would you rather I keep them to myself? I honestly would like to know …